Can a Man Really Become Multi-Orgasmic?

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Tantra~ Men and Sexual Healing   

TANTRA & TERMS

In many ancient cultures the women were the temple priestesses. They were known to be creators and therefore seen as the light bearers that keep the fir burning upon the flaming torch of life. These Goddesses were the guardians of all Celestial bodies, sent from Heaven to Earth with their natural healing secrets. The secrets unfold within as these priestesses reveal their teachings invoked through the powers of the Goddess energy.

In the ancient times, young women were brought to the temples and taught, by the older temple priestesses, that the female, Goddess energy, could be used as a healing force. By invoking the highest and most pure form known as the Goddess energy the priestess learned to master all of the sacred healing arts. They knew that the quality of the spiritual experience could be enhanced and manipulated through the entire body, directed by their sexual healing force. Temple Goddesses would initiate young men in rites of sexuality and teach how to access heavenly realms of bliss through the gateways of her body. The older men were rejuvenated with excitement about love and life.

Anja - 6th Chakra, the third eye
Asana - a physical posture, or yoga related position
Amrita-female ejaculate; The Nectar of the Goddess; Fountain of youth
Ananda- divine bliss, oneness with higher realms of holy peace
Anahata - 4th Chakra, the heart center
Atman - the essence of perfection inherent to all creatures
Bandah - muscular lock, used to direct and intensify sacred energy.

Chakras - nerve centers of the subtle body; seven in number, base of spine, genitals, belly, heart, throat, forehead (third eye), top of head


Daka- Male Priest, healer can embody shiva and serve Shakti unconditionally
Dakini
- Female Tantrica or Yogini. An attendant or servant to Great Goddess by holding the intention to embody Her highest will; Commonly used to describe a Priestess, healer, alchemist, or initiate skilled at high level arts.   
Darma- Your soul's purpose, a completion of karma through Divine servitude  
Darshan - inner vision; to see a great or holy individual, either human or divine
Deva - A God, Deity; or cosmic power
Devi - Goddess; Deity; a holy creative power
Dharma - divine duty, or highest spiritual path
Durga - the warrior Goddess
FAQ - Frequently asked Tantra Practioner Questions
Hatha
- literally the "Sun joins the Moon" symbolically translates to the soul's connection with the body
Karma - the accumulated effect, in this life, of deeds and actions in past lives
Kriya - system of internal purification, cleansing process
Kundalini- latent energy located at the base of the spine. Kundalini is like coiled sleeping serpent. The yogi works to gently awaken this dormant energy to attain enlightenment.
Lakshmi- Goddess of abundance, wealth, happiness and prosperity. The consort of Lord Vishnu
Lingam - a man's "wand of light" from  Linga, pillar of adoration and worship of Lord Shiva- cosmic masculine force, igniting destruction or creation, consort and Tantric lover to Shakti
Maha - Great, mighty one
Maithuna - Elaborate Tantric ritual with many parts, usually culminating in some form sacred sexual union.
Manipura - 3rd Chakra, the power center, located around the navel
Mantra - a sacred phrase of spiritual significance and power; verbal chant
Maya - illusion that one's personality can use to limit or challenge the Soul
Mudra - sacred hand gestures to focus the body's energy with intention
Muladhara - 1st Chakra, the root center, located at the anus or perineum
Nadis - subtle nerve channels related to physical body and energy healing
Nirvana - Ultimate spiritual peace, a place that transcends birth and death and absolute freedom from attachment is achieved. The Vedas say when you reach the attainment your soul no longer needs to incarnate on the earth plane
Ojas - subtle vital force within the body which can lower immunity and vitality through forced orgasm, excessive and/or genitally focused ejaculation
Prana - Energy, air, breath, life force; received by the body from pure food, nurturing, healing and self transformation 
Pranayama - yogic breath techniques; consciously control of breathing patterns to quiet the mind and balance the body's natural energies.
Puja - a specific ritual, or sacred circle of worship
Reiki - Japanese work which employs Universal Healing Energy
Sahasara - 7th Chakra, the crown center, located at the top of the head
Samadhi - deep meditative state
Sattva- blissful illumination, joy
Shakti- the divine mother; the power of consciousness and spiritual evolution
Shaman - American Indian name for a spiritual healer
Shaktipat - an transmission of spiritual energy usually given by a guru
Sky Dancing - a translated Tantric term used to describe transcendental love making where partners, overcome their differences and dance in cosmic space
Swadhistana - 2nd Chakra, the sexual center, located at the genitals

T
ejas
- fire element of the body which can burn out with excessive toxin intake, drug use, cigarette smoking and even everyday city life.
Upandishads - literally "secret teachings" the last portion of the Vedas

Vajra or Lingam
or 'the powerful thunderbolt'

Vissuddi - 5th Chakra, the throat center, located at the throat
Yab-Yum - an asana in which woman sits astride facing her partner; chakras are aligned, alternate breath can accompany this posture, a.k.a. "yogananda" or  the position of the cosmic spiral.
Yang- active, quick, firm, masculine or technical energy
Yantra - mystic geometrical diagram used for healing meditation
Yin - receptive, gentle, soft sensuality, feminine or intuitive energy
Yoni- A woman's sacred temple; ring like symbol of Shakti or female power
Yuga - era, epoch. This age is the end of the Kali Yuga

 

Goddess Worship: Goddesses UnveiledDiscover erotic ways to worship Her. Combine ancient erotic ways to worship her with modern romance,  flowers and poetry...

The way of the Daka is to serve all women, regardless of age, race, status or physical attribute. He serves from his heart not for his own pleasure or conquest, as that would defeat the purpose of service. But instead to be a healer of broken hearts and wounds that may have been inflicted by his brothers. 

Tantra is a path of the feminine.  Worship of the Goddess involves being respectful and loving of women, the earth and all forms of life. Fulfilling rewards come with this path of service to the Goddess, but the service itself is return enough.

Love Positions:  If love is a dance, then you better learn the steps! 

These positions and techniques can expand your pleasure, love intimacy, vitality, and longevity. Practiced with reverence, they have the power to improve the quality of your life! 

Positions from the Kama Sutra, other texts, positions which stimulate the G-Spot & much more.

 

  F.A.Q.  & Internet  Abbreviations

What is Aromatherapy? <click Blue underline for more

Services Abbreviations below

  • AKA: Also Known As
  • Aromatherapy: Therapeutic use of aroma-producing oils (essential oils) extracted from plants: flowers, leaves, stalks, bark, rind, or roots. The oils are mixed with another substance (such as oil or lotion) and then applied to the skin, sprayed in the air, or inhaled. The oils can also be massaged into the skin or poured into bath water.  Juliet uses these oils/ lotions for massage and aromatherapy soap for bath. ...continued here
  • Around the world: Enjoy sex in all holes-mouth, anal, vagina
  • Asian: Oral sex on the anus of either sex (aka Rimming or Around-the-World)
  • Asian Cowgirl: Cowgirl with girl on her feet, instead of her knees
  • ATF: All Time Favorite
  • B2B = Body 2 Body: Rubbing body with anothers body
  • BBBJTC = Bare Back Blow Job To Completion: see Swallows
  • BDS = Bondage(state of being bound) Discipline(tenure or service of person(aka slave) to person (aka Dominatrix) , Sado(Giving Pain), Juliet only gives all this
  • BDSM = Bondage(state of being bound) Discipline(tenure or service of person(aka slave) to person (aka Dominatrix) , Sado(Giving Pain), Masochism(receiving pain) <NOT for Juliet
  • Bi = Bisexual: enjoy being with male or female
  • BJ = Blow Job: Oral sex performed on a man (aka French Without).
  • BBBJ = Bare Back Blow Job: Oral sex on a man without using a condom (aka French Without).
  • BBW = Big Beautiful Woman
  • BFE = Boy Friend Experience: Spend two or more hours together, have dinner or drinks, maybe a small gift, a little mutual care giving, give a massage on occasion, being willing (if otherwise appropriate based on some good observations below) to give oral in addition to receiving it, and in general, make it a priority for the provider to have a good time in addition to the client.
  • BUKKAKE:  to squirt or splash cum<click Blue for more
  • CBT = Cock and Ball Torture: only if requested
  • CBJ = Covered Blow Job: Oral sex on a man using a condom (aka French With).
  • Cowgirl: Girl on top AKA: Juliet TIGGER BOUNCE
  • Cunnilingus: The act of stimulating the female genitals (especially the clitoris and vaginal lips) with the lips and tongue, or having one's genitals stimulated in this way. Cunnilingus is also commonly referred to as ‘oral sex’ or ‘licking’.
  • DATY = Dining at the "Y": Also known as Cunnilingus (see definition above).  Juliet enjoys let her now you want it!
  • Doggie Style: Man behind girl (standing or kneeling, penis inserted in vagina
  • DOM = Dominatrix: Female that controls another
  • DFK=Deep French Kissing: Kissing on mouth with tongue contact deep into throat.
  • DT = Deep Throat: Oral on cock deep in the mouth
  • ENEMA: old fashion way of liquid flowing into the intestine by way of the anus  AKA colonic
  • Facial: Give or Receive Cum all over the face or massage with hands on and around the face-BiJuliet does all
  • FBSM = Full Body Sensual Massage:FE fantasy provider, independent escort, elite courtesan, versatile stripper and gfe
  • FGFE = French Girl Friend Experience: BiJuliet's GFE with lots of Asian mixed in, the experience is unrushed, enjoyable, fun, relaxing and more like a "real date than a quick commercial encounter. Where anything GOES, oral and various multiple hour session that facilitates the girl friend experience with M/F/TV/couple, mutual cuddling, foreplay, mutual kissing, mutual oral sex uncovered, and involves either the illusion or reality of passion on the part of the provider. (all covered except BJ)
  • Fellatio = The act of sucking or licking the penis or having one's penis sucked or licked. Fellatio is also commonly referred to as 'oral sex' or 'sucking' or 'blow job'.
  • French = Oral sex
  • French Kissing = Kissing on mouth with tongue contact  see also DFK
  • FBSM = Full Body Sensual Massage: Not usually full service; EXPECT only massage and HJ (see definition below), but more services might or might not be available. Also known as Private Viewing (see definition below) or B2B (Body 2 Body)
  • FS =Full Service: Intercourse to completion (with condom!)
  • FGFE = French Girl Friend Experience: GFE below with French above.
  • GFE = Girl Friend Experience: Definition varies by provider. Refers to a type of session providing aspects of social and physical interaction beyond the act itself. Some ladies provide the GFE experience as part of their regular services, while others do so depending on the circumstances or not at all. see FGFE for BiJuliet session
  • GFE = Girl Friend Experience man's point of view: What it means to each person is a little different, but to most guys it means a provider that makes the experience seem unrushed, enjoyable, fun, relaxing and more like a "real date than a quick commercial encounter. In practice, though, it seems to depend on chemistry, personality and mutual expectations, as YMMV ("your mileage may vary") for both the provider and client. BiJuliet's is true uninhibited Girl Friend to Experience.
  • Greek: Anal sex (with Condom).
  • Greek Without: Anal sex without condom (aka "Death Wish") N/A
  • H2E =Water Enema
  • Half & Half = A combination of both oral sex and intercourse.
  • Hand Job (HJ) = Masturbation by yourself or others with your hand only
  • Incall = AKA- Provider's Place, You meet the person at his/her place---apartment or hotel room arranged by service provider
  • In Search Of (ISO) = A message board post looking for something (a girl, a date, a TS/TV, etc)
  • LMT Licensed Massage Therapist =  State License to Massage and AA degree in Cosmetology (Spa Services).
  • Mandara comes from an ancient Sanskrit legend about the gods' quest to find the elixir of immortality and eternal youth.  
  • Missionary = man on top
  • Nude Massage =  Licensed Real Therapeutic Swedish Nude Massage (Sport upon request) with/without handshake HJ (customers choice with biJuliet) where both client and provider is nude during session
  • Outcall: person comes to your place---your home, your hotel, etc.
  • Polish: Massaging the buttocks with the boobs
  • PSE =  Porn Star Experince
  • PV = Private Viewing: The facts are that private viewings as a genre are NOT Full Service, Also private viewing is interpreted differently by different PV providers and implemented differently according to the client in many instances--many more than a FS escort. If you insist on Full Service DO NOT go to someone who advertises Private Viewing. Really simple. If you are happy with a "hands-on" approach (and likely hands only) then this may be a route for you. You will in all likelihood leave the PV "satisfied" and the PV provider WILL assist you in a hands-on manner. It is NOT a do-it-yourself experience. If language lessons happen consider your self blessed or lucky but DO NOT expect it and DO NOT plan on it no matter what one individual says--that is foolhardy at best. Also known as FBSM (see definition above) or B2B.
  • REQ: Requesting information
  • Russian: Penis between girl's breasts until completion. AKA Pear necklace, or HPF(Hawaiian Power Fu**)
  • Showers:  1)Goddess Bathing (Shower together, aromatherapy soap) 2) Golden(pee)  Shower or 3) Brown(skat) Shower ~Juliet gives all (see WaterWorks)
  • Skat: AKA poop or shit
  • Snowball: Cumming in another's mouth then Deep French Kissing (DFK) to share the cum with that person.
  • Strap On Dildo: object serving as a penis substitute for m/f insertion, Varying in size  made to be strapped on male or female. Juliet gives and receives. mine vibrates too!
  • Swallows: BJ to completion in mouth then swallowing down the cum.
  • TTFN: TAH TAH For Now AKA BRB=Be Right Back  Tigger term for have a Fantastic time til we talk again!
  • Water Sports or WaterWorks: pee & skat showers (see showers)
  • YMMV: Your Mileage May Vary---May do things with one person, but not with another OR your experience may be different than mine for a variety of reasons.
Some Other Common Internet Abbreviations
  • AAMOF As A Matter Of Fact
  • ADNAny Day Now
  • AFAHMASP A Fool And His Money Are Soon Parted
  • AFAIAC As Far As I Am Concerned
  • AFAIK As Far As I Know
  • AFAICS As Far As I Can See
  • AIMB As I Mentioned Before
  • ASAD All-Singing All-Dancing
  • ASYOYO Adios Sucker - You're On Your Own!
  • ATM At The Moment
  • ATST At The Same Time
  • *BBBJ Bare Back BJ
  • BION Believe It Or Not
  • BOGOF Buy One Get One Free
  • BRB Be Right Back
  • BRBBRB Be Right Back - BathRoom Break
  • BRBCB Be Right Back - Coffee Break
  • BRLCFH Broke Ribs Laughing, Call For Help
  • BTSOOM Beats The Stuffing(!) Out Of Me
  • *BTW By The Way
  • CRI Cranial-Rectal Inversion
  • CYA Cover Your @ss
  • DNHS Da Noze Has Spoken
  • DC Double-Click
  • DILIGA (S) (F) (D) Do I look like I give a (SH**) (FU**) (DA**) as the situation warrants
  • EOM End Of Message
  • *ETHOM-- excuse the hell out of me 25
  • FOOMCBASL Falling Out Of My Chair Busting A Spleen Laughing
  • FRENCH Oral stimulation
  • FUBAR Fouled(!) Up Beyond All Repair/Recognition
  • FUD Fear Uncertainty and Doubt
  • FWIW For What Its Worth/
  • *FYI For Your Information
  • FYR For Your Records
  • GD&R Grin, Duck and Run
  • GD&WVVF Grin, Duck and Walk Very Very Fast
  • *GFE Girl Friend Experience
  • GREEK Anal Penetration
  • IAC In Any Case
  • IAE In Any Event
  • IANALB I Am Not A Lawyer But
  • ICOCBW I Could, Of Course, Be Wrong
  • *IMHO In My Humble Opinion
  • IOW In Other Words IROOC Idiot Right Out Of College
  • *ISO In Search Of
  • ISTR I Seem To Remember
  • IWIK I Wish I knew
  • KIT Keep In Touch
  • L&G Latest And Greatest
  • LMAO Laughing My A** Off
  • LMK Let Me Know
  • *LOL Lots Of Laughter/Laughing Out Loud
  • LTNS Long Time No See
  • MBWA Management By Wandering Around
  • MMF Make Money Fast (scam)
  • NIMBY Not In My Back Yard
  • NTYMI Now That You Mention It
  • OMG Oh My God/Gosh
  • OTOH On The Other Hand
  • PEBKAC Problem Exists Between Keyboard And Chair
  • PEBMAC Problem Exists Between Monitor And Chair
  • PM[F]JI Pardon Me [For] Jumping In
  • QQ Quick Question
  • *ROFL Rolls On Floor Laughing
  • *ROTFLMAO Rolling On The Floor Laughing My A** Off
  • RSN Real Soon Now
  • SOTA State-Of-The-Art
  • SWMBO She Who Most Be Obeyed
  • TANSTAAFL There Ain't No Such Thing As A Free Lunch
  • TDNBW This Does Not Bode Well
  • TFX Too Flippin' eXpensive
  • TIA Thanks In Advance
  • TLAR That Looks About Right
  • TOTBAL There Ought To Be A Law
  • TPTB The Powers That Be
  • TS TransSexual
  • TTBOMK To The Best Of My Knowledge
  • TTYL Talk To You Later
  • TWT Time will tell WAD Working As Designed
  • WAS Wait And See
  • WTHDIK What The Hell Do I Know
  • YHBT You Have Been Trolled
  • *YMMV Your Mileage May Vary

 

FAQ ~ Frequently Asked Questions
                     answered by Dr. Corynna Clarke

Q: What is Tantra?

A: Tantra is a body of information that comes from ancient India during a period of time when people understood the power of sexuality and regarded their sexual energy as just another powerful force to be used in daily life. It was just as important during those times to be versed in that art as it was to be good at your career, to raise children, play sports, or to go to church. The techniques I use help people to integrate their sexuality with the rest of life, so the sexual aspect is no longer something to be ashamed of but a force to heal yourself and bring more creative, spiritual, sensual, magical energy to your daily life.

Q: How many sessions will I need and how often should I come in?

A: There is no set number of sessions that you should have. You will learn techniques that  will benefit you and that you can incorporate in to your life after the very first session. It depends on you personally. I don’t ever tell people they have to come a certain number of times. Some people experience it out of curiosity and find they love it, but it isn't a path for everyone. I love my dedicated students, they become my teachers and friends. It always has to be people who are committed to transformation and open to really experience all of life's emotions. Some clients come every week, because they really get the value of this work, and they want to be masters.
    I have a few clients that I've been seeing for years and years. Those are the relationships that are especially wonderful, because we are truly learning from each other and watching tremendous growth take place, both in us individually and as a Tantric love team.

Q: Is this counseling?

A: Counseling only addresses one level the mind. You can go around in your head all day and you will still have the same issues, all you will get is maybe a better understanding of them. This works on a body and spiritual level as well as the mental. So it addresses the physical imprints, and communicates directly with your soul to find out what action needs to occur in order for a healing to happen, as well as finding out how to support that opening after the revelation.

Q:Is this full service?

A: The more you tell me about your needs, wants, likes and dislikes the more complete the session can be for you.  Each session is different because I tune into each person's body to find what their individual needs are, which can often be very different from what their expectations are.
    I'm interested in working with people who have open minds and can release their self limiting pictures.  Tantra is about sharing love and energy without goals or agendas. I do what feels good and appropriate to me for each individual session, and I can’t say what that looks like until afterwards.

Q: What do you wear during a session?

A: The majority of the time I will be Nude, unless you request something different.

Q: Should I work with several different goddesses or should I just stick with one?

A: There are definitely advantages to both. Working with several teachers and attending a variety of workshops and events gives you a broader perspective of what Tantra really is. Every single teacher I have studied with has a completely different approach and focus and a unique way of presenting it. When you find a teacher you like you'll want to stick with her because there is a depth and richness in the intimacy that is an essential part of Tantra. If you find yourself wanting to flit around to lots and lots of different Goddesses, it could be because you don't feel you are ready for that level of deep connection.

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Can a Man Really Become Multi-Orgasmic?


By Mare Simone

     I get asked this question a lot. For the record, the answer is Ohhhh Yes!!! From the tantric perspective, orgasm is not a goal or completion of sex, but rather an aroused physical and emotional state that literally can be experienced throughout one's entire being. The longer one lingers in this aroused state of excitement, the more energy and life force they can absorb and radiate. A man may have multiple orgasms without ejaculating and yet actually feel energized in the afterglow. As a woman, I can only tell you that it's extraordinarily satisfying to be with a man who can continue to ride wave upon wave of pleasure with me. It creates a deeper and profound feeling of union.
     The techniques that assist one in developing these skills can be learned and mastered with practice. Physiologically, it is possible for a man to have orgasm without ejaculating. Sadly, it is also possible for a man to ejaculate without much physical pleasure at all! Orgasm and ejaculation are functions that are activated by separate parts of the nervous system. Although they often do occur simultaneously, each of these functions can be experienced independent of one another. To a man this means prolonged and multiple orgasms are possible without an ejaculation.
     During ejaculation, sleep hormones are produced and released in the brain. An immense amount of proteins, vitamins, minerals and amino acids as well as vital energies are lost in the ejaculate. Although austere Taoists such as Mantak Chia, author of the best selling book, "The Multi-Orgasmic Male" may disagree, I believe that this depletion factor does not mean that a man should never ejaculate except to procreate; but rather to do so with consciousness and wisdom. When a man ejaculates, if he plants his seed along with an intentional thought or vision, it becomes a conscious conception; whether it's for a baby or an empowering state that one can conjure and imprint, it is infused with the creative life force.
     A non-ejaculatory type of orgasm for a man can occur repeatedly without him feeling exhaustion. Once a man comes and "spills his seed" he's usually spent; especially if he is past the age of 35 when his hormone production begins to slow down. Tantric practices offer a man the ability to maintain a level of heightened arousal with numerous peaks and multiple dimensions of exhilarating pleasure. Many men find this to be more satisfying. The key is to be able to be excited and relaxed at the same time. On the "pleasure scale" of one to ten, a man must learn to maintain a level seven (which is heaven) for as long as he desires. Breathing and movement exercises can assist one in opening up to feeling fabulously aroused while calm and centered at the same time. Orgasm is deep like the ocean, we cannot control it, yet we can learn to ride the waves and experience great pleasures and the immense benefits that it brings.
     Depending on a man's health, his age and other conditions, frequent ejaculation can be depleting. With tantric methods he can learn to actually re-absorb his vital essences and become empowered by them. When a man doesn't ejaculate during orgasm, he is able to effectively move the energy and fill his body with a highly charged and oxygenated life force. Through the simple techniques that Tantra teaches, a man can reach an orgasmic state that satisfies on a deep and peaceful level. In fact, men who don't release after sustaining high levels of pleasure often feel energized and rejuvenated afterwards. This expanded state can last for days and can lead to a more refined sensitivity towards pleasure. This profound experience can be enjoyed solo, or with a partner. With proper guidance and practice, men often find a tantric orgasm more pleasurable and satisfying than an orgasm with release.
     When a man experiences multiple orgasms it awakens him to feel a very similar experience to a woman's sensations. Men have often reported to me feelings of pleasure that rise to their heart with a lightness and glowing warmth that radiates throughout their body. Men who are multi-orgasmic have the potential to become more emotionally intimate and able to join with a woman in conscious sexual bliss. When a man discovers his ability to relax into pleasure, it takes him to a new level that can only be understood through direct experience. Relaxing into pleasure is a gateway that can open him up to realizing his full spectrum of orgasmic states.
     I can assist you to discover what is possible and appropriate for you. Ultimately it is your choice - Do you want to lose the power of this dynamic force or cultivate it and discover the full range of what's available to you as a multi-orgasmic man?

 Mare Simone

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Tantra, Men and Sexual Healing   
by Maryse Cote

    Two years ago I wrote an article on women and sexual healing which was published in the Kali issue of the Tantra magazine. Men responded very warmly to the article, echoing women in feeling disenfranchised and sexually unfulfilled. I felt moved to write about men out of a sense of personal responsibility in furthering our common healing while cultivating an awareness of mutuality between genders. My purpose is to explore how men have also been wounded. I am aware of the dimension of the subject matter and that I can only barely scratch the surface yet that’s a start.
    Although I have worked privately with over a thousand men as an instructor of basic Tantric and Taoist practices and as a sexual healer and that I ;have loved many men in my life including six younger brothers, I also must admit that it is with a limited confidence that I approach the subject of male sexual woundings because I am not in a man’s body. I can’t access the same cellular memory that I do when I talk about women. Nevertheless I have seen, felt and heard men’s woundings and the unnecessary suffering that results from having a penis.
    Attempting to understand how a man experiences himself as a sexual being requires that we take a closer look at how we’ve all been wounded. We’ve all been victims of a socialization and discrimination process which defines our sexual identities and roles. We are seen only as either a "man" or a "woman". Eventually I came to understand how gender roles hurt everyone. Before being seen as a human being with very individual characteristics and choices, we are being labeled by our genitals as a male or a female and treated accordingly within our culture.
     To be a "man" in most cultures requires the "person with a penis" to be a performer and provider. Men are trained and conditioned for these roles from an early age. The core of this macho training is a denial of the full range of emotions and body feelings. As Robert Bly says: "Contemporary business life allows competitive relationships only, in which the major emotions are anxiety, tension, loneliness, rivalry and fear. Having no soul union with other men can be the most damaging wound of all. Much personal power is given away in the process of denying one’s true feelings."
    Competition, success, ownership and external rewards become the foundation of Superman pseudo power.
    Since emotions are categorized as "something for girls" the young boy learns very early that:
A. it’s not okay to feel like girls
B. that there must be something with being a girl
C. to be a man must mean to be strong, to be in control, to not show feelings and to see himself as superior to women - misogyny becomes identity.
    This conditioning insidiously crystallizes the male role of performer, hero, macho, provider, achiever, doer. That’s how we transform a human being into a human doing. From that place of isolation from his true self, he becomes an easy prey to a system that only values external rewards such as success and ownership. Competition becomes the rule and the way to relate to other men. The degree of his denial of emotions and bodily feelings may lead him to extreme abuse of power, greed, destruction and violence. Wars and the destruction of our natural environment are just examples of such denial.
    An interesting study of Warren Farrel Ph.D. further points out that "men are socialized to want sex as long as one condition is fulfilled - physical attraction. Women are still taught to be sexually cautious for two, three or all four conditions - attraction, respect, emotions and intellect - are met. Many women add a fifth and a sixth conditions - singleness and status/success. Many add a seventh, eighth and ninth - the man must ask her out; he must pay; and he must risk rejection by initiating the first kiss; be the first to hold hands, and so on. Men feel as if their expectations are so much lower than women’s, which is only one condition, and they can’t even meet that. And so men feel sexually powerless.
    While men are focusing on physical attraction and external rewards, internal rewards such as communication, intimacy, love and commitment remain unsatisfied. Lack of sexual fulfillment results in powerlessness for both men and women. Rarely do we think of men as sexually powerless mainly because we associate the male phallus as the symbol of sexual power. I see this powerlessness manifested in many ways. In my work I constantly encounter premature ejaculation, difficulties with erections, lack of sexual feelings, and lack of skills and confidence in their sexual expression.
    During sex, a phenomenon that Western psychologists call premature ejaculation happens to 75% of men, preventing them from experiencing a deep union. What this usually means is that the man has not allowed his partner to develop her energy into an orgasm. As a result, in normal sexual relations the percentage of women experiencing frustration and no orgasm may be as high as 80%.
    Can you imagine when this situation persists? The results are performance anxiety, lack of self confidence, feelings of embarrassment, frustration and shame, lack of sexual fulfillment and deep suffering. I am a firm believer in ejaculation control as a solution to World Peace staring at home by creating more sexual fulfillment. My personal contribution to this is a beautiful 60 minute audio tape, a step by step Sexercises Training which teaches total ejaculation control and how to prepare the body for male multiple orgasm.
    The absence of a rite of initiation into malehood with proper sexual training also contributes to male sexual wounding. Men are not trained to know how to love women. A man’s first experience of female love is with his mother. This relationship will determine a man’s capability to love and trust a woman. Most men have been severely wounded from deeply unfulfilled mothers who projected their own needs, dreams and expectations onto their sons. The son often became a substitute for an absent father and lover. A man’s fear of women’s control affects how willing he is to surrender to women’s sexual power. His unconscious fear of women’s inexhaustible sexual power confronts him with his vulnerability, especially if he fails to meet his own expectations as a sexual performer. His desire for control is challenged by a temperamental male phallus which can let him down at any given moment without notice. We call it "cumming" while it should be called "going". Because, unless a man learns to transmute his energy before he ejaculates, once he "cums" he is gone. His energy, his interest in his partner are gone. The man who repeatedly experiences this lack of control over his sexual energy will often end up feeling powerless.
    Such experiences of powerlessness may tap into a man’s earliest experience of having his genitals mutilated by circumcision. "No one is aware of the deep implications and life-long effect of circumcision. All that takes place in the first days of life on the emotional level shapes the pattern of all future reactions. How could a being aggressed in this way, while totally helpless, develop into a relaxed, trusting person?"
    "Could the trauma from this event have anything to do with our later feelings of shame about our bodies, our concern about the size of our penises, our anguish over sexual performance, our frozen feelings, or the male ability (liability?) To ignore pain? In order to begin healing our wounds we need to remember what happened to us and name it correctly. Cutting the genitals of newborn male babies is child sexual abuse. I encourage all men to join in ending this practice.
    The more I read on the subject the more upset I become. A more recent factor which unfortunately has also contributed to men’s woundings is feminism with its often times vehement objectification of men. In the spirit of retaliation there isn’t much room for discernment. The more sensitive men took on the hard blow, right under the belt, in their power center. While the male power structure was actually the object of attack, many receptive men’s personal power got blasted. On top of not having adequate male role models, now simply being a man was a cause of shame, blame and discrimination!
    Finally I am suggesting a last yet certainly not the least important factor of sexual woundings. It is the fear around sexuality which men have also inherited at a cellular level from patriarchal religions. Indeed patriarchal religions throughout the ages had people killed off for being sexually alive. The human body and its erotic power became a source of evil. What if instead, it would have been considered a source of divine embodiment?
    Perhaps the phenomena of the New Age man is a natural response to these woundings. I think it’s a rather creative one. These men have opened themselves to their intuitive and receptive side. They know how to be gentle and sensitive. Which is exactly what women had asked from men. The problem is that through this process they have often lost the more bold, active and penetrating qualities required for personal power. In that way they’ve compromised their maleness! And of course, it’s bound to affect their sexual power.
    Whether or not modern man is in touch with his emotional pain, his body can’t lie. The most striking way that sexual woundings is affecting him is through the disease of his prostate. In this country, over 50% of men experience prostate difficulties beyond the age of 50 while prostate cancer is the second leading cause of male death. The medical establishment seems to ignore the cause of it. Aside from the immediate physical causes shouldn’t we pay closer attention to the more obvious which is the surrounding environment; the quality of the air, water and food? The chemical substances present in the environment get most particularly concentrated in the sexual organs.
    At another level, the significance of the disease of the male sexual organ reflect the difficulty to convert this tremendous testosterone power used for wars and destruction of the planet into a creative, peaceful and sacred source of energy. It is time to collectively give birth to the peaceful warrior, to the wise man who can meet the wise woman in true power and equality, mutually supporting our freedom of being divinely human.
    So here is the same question I asked women in my previous article. How can men begin to reclaim their sexual power?

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Sexual Choices for More Meaning and Expression
by Ramana Das and Marilena Sibley

Adrenaline sex, liquid sex, hard sex, flowing sex, expanded sex, tantric sex, soft sex, extended sex, wet sex, slow sex, ecstatic sex, long-distance sex, quickie sex, more sex... we want it ALL!
    In expressing sexual energy, we experience the divinity and diversity of the human body’s potential for awareness and feelings! We are inspired, we are alive, we channel the creative life force flowing through us, either by ourselves or to be shared with others.
    Whether we make love three times a day or three times a year, it’s our choice to hook into this life force energy, superficially or deeply. In this age of diversity, when we can tune into hundreds of video channels, radio stations, even web sites, there’s just about everything available for everybody. Alternatives abound! Choices are ours for the taking. The decisions... and resulting experiences... are ours to make. Responsibility rests with us... each of us. No regrets, no blame, nobody in charge of our pleasure destiny except us! Choice involves levels of consciousness in one’s erotic focus, desires, partners, situations. The question is whether we are in a conscious state of alertly and sensitively being in the moment, or are we acting automatically, unconsciously, out of past habit patterns.
    The bottom line for us in getting for most out of this life force energy we call sex is to select a path of loving consciousness, wherein self responsibility, empowerment, self-esteem, sensitive spontaneity and clear communication rule. Are we not worth the best possible experiences, adventures, encounters and relationships? Yes, yes, yes! We opt for less stress and more fun. We experience healthy consensual sexual activity as a vital expression of overall health and vitality. We do what we feel to do, separately and together, rather than follow a preconceived idea of what is acceptable. This is our time, this new millennium... an age of diversity, acceptance and exploration of possibilities. It is an age of sexual/spiritual empowerment... living as Gods and Goddesses in the flesh.
    For us, first there were the sexual freedom days... all kinds of sensate experimentation. Mmmm good. Then we began to explore deeper ways to relate, as well as new ways to raise, focus and play with the sex energies. We began to include the entire body as a divine field of pleasure. We felt the sexuality of touch, massage, dancing and drumming... even merely gazing into each other’s eyes, or breathing together in simply rhythms of inbreaths and outbreaths. Feelings of aliveness began to spread into every waking moment that we chose to connect with that creative vital frequency. Our relationships felt deeper and more intense. We met each other. Lust and love, passion and consciousness, all blending into one integrated whole. We married. Five years passed. It got pretty esoteric... and yet we never forgot that we are in bodies, that these bodies are here to feel pleasure, to raise and share energy, to harmonize and merge into a oneness that can’t really be written about.
    So what can we write about... even advocate in this turning of the ages? One of our mottos is: "expand your envelope of pleasure!". When communication between lovers is easy, trusting and frank, all roads that lead to the oneness of orgasm are worthy of exploring. It could be a "gee whiz" innocent curious vibe, maybe a sweaty physical test of body stamina, or a dissolution of individual identities into a sea of pulsing psychedelic bliss. It’s all up to the most sexual of all organs: the brain! After all, first comes thought, then comes action! So within our fairly loose boundaries, we intend to stay open to as many choices as appropriate. We listen to what our bodies are telling us, and if it feels okay, we explore. After all, in order to know the boundaries of pleasure, we surrender to the possibilities that sexual diversity offers. Each of us has that choice to make. That’s where the ‘muscles’ of consciousness need to be exercised! For some, there will be many choices, for others, just a few.
    New ways of communicating, keeping the dance of energies passing back and forth between bodies and hearts, have been some of the most exciting discoveries for us. Giving each other breath and hair massages, for example. This involves first slowly breathing over the entire body, front and back, in rhythm to sinuous playful music. Then, we repeat the entire process using one’s head of hair, stroking the skin with many different kinds of head motions. Another example, in the spirit of non-verbal vibratory communication, is rhythmically drumming on each other’s in turn, in time to hypnotic trance dance music. There are so many ways to make sounds by forming one’s hands and then slapping the willing thighs and ass of one’s willing partner! (We call this activity "body drumming"... it really gets the appropriate skin areas awakened and juiced up!) In our workshops, video and music, we explore many different paths to "vibrational engorgement", where every cell of the body is aroused and excited, rather than only the primary erogenous zones. It’s kept us looking and feeling young... and it’s fun! (We’re slim and trim and in our fifties.) Sex doesn’t have to be so serious! For us, although sexual expression is sometimes geared to emotional or physical ‘release’, most of the time it’s in the pleasuring of the other... then the pleasuring of the self, and finally dissolving into Pleasure itself! For us, this has been a path of breath, sound, touch, body positions and movement... as well as lips, nipples and genitals. It’s become the yoga of sex! (Some call this ‘Tantra’.)
    In the spirit of diversity, we’ve seen that contacting, exploring, balancing and celebrating the male and female energies in each of us, whether we are in a male or a female body, is a wonderful arena of investigation and play. There are many techniques to taste, fill and share these energies with one another. When both partners have options of undulating and/or penetrating, receiving and/or giving, being the passive and/or the active one, not only does this lead to delightful variations on all the basic sexual moves, it also develops a sense of playful partnership where supportive intent replaces competitive intent... we call it ‘interplay rather than powerplay’. A perfect example of this perspective is in our video INTIMATE SECRETS OF SEX & SPIRIT, where we demonstrate ‘horizontal dancing’. One partner lies prone while the other uses his/her body parts to move around the prostrate body, sliding, rubbing, wiggling, pressing and undulating... again in rhythm to erotically arousing music. Another example, from the video, is where we demonstrate ‘joys of the languid lingam. Here, the male partner is totally relaxed, surrendered to being played with by his partner, and she handles the aforementioned member as her own tool for pleasure. No performance anxieties for the male, lots of relaxed pleasures for them both! Finally, in the spirit of sexual health and wellbeing, we show how to give and receive prostate massage for the male and g-spot massage for the female. We are of the firm belief that lack of stimulation in these intimate locations blocks vital energies and breeds decay in the entire body vitality. One might compare these techniques to the need for flossing the teeth... to keep the mouth and teeth happy and healthy!
    Finally, we have found that utilizing fantasy together, creating different erotic sets and settings, acting out and being channels for ‘larger that life’ energies, brings new dimensions in which to experience familiar sensual and sexual positions and activities. It may mean the creating of a harem setting, a bordello, a monastary, a divine temple, military barracks, a pirate’s cave... or whatever turns one on. It may mean taking on the energy roles of: the planets Venus and Mars; the elements like fire, water or earth; or gods and goddesses from different historical and cultural traditions. The point is to explore and expand the boundaries of loving expression... and have FUN!

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Tantra Activating Energy
and Amrita

by Goddess Mare Simone

     Tantra purifies the body and mind through the activation of energy. The benefits of this activating force are not limited by gender. The practice of Tantra can bring more vitality and rejuvenating life forces to both men and women. This is especially so when the heightened states of erotic bliss are accompanied by an intention to direct the energy in a positive way.
     For a woman, Tantra assists her in realizing her true divine nature as the feminine principal. When a woman is capable of deeply relaxing and thereby expanding her consciousness during sex, she becomes a gateway to the sacred forces that create life. As she opens herself in high sexual states, effulgent rays of energy fill her and nourish her being. When a woman is stimulated sexually for focused and extended periods of time, she opens so deeply that she taps into Source. She becomes a channel and in her orgasm she and her partner are energized. They are bathed together and blessed in the creative forces of live. At that time she is capable of experiencing her divine nature as a vessel for love and creativity.
     The thoughts and especially the statements that are made in the timeless space of orgasm become infused with the life giving powers.
     When a woman is in prolonged states of orgasm, the energy that her orgasm generates is charged with creative forces. Potentially it's a time of great spiritual expansion and physical manifestation. At this time, enlightenment and enormous energy shifts can take place. This is a time of great creative power. The tantrics regard it as such by using the vitality that stems from heightened sexuality to fortify their bodies and their minds. The longer they remain in that heightened state, the more power and energy they derive. When tantrics use this force in a conscious and specific way, it affords them greater access to the unlimited bliss of sexual pleasure. It is a doorway that opens the passage to our brain and beyond.
     When a woman is opening in various stages of orgasm, she may release a fluid called Amrita. It is a sacred bath from the Mother that purifies and awakens the psyche. When this occurs it often brings about a cleansing and purification. Transformations happen which sometimes are accompanied by emotions of tears and laughter. It is a release on a very deep level that can heal and awaken.
     From that prospective, orgasm becomes a union with the Creator. Each consecutive orgasm takes her deeper into the realms of the sacred. The infinite unknown. The place where there is no ego or separation. There is only union. Melting and merging. When a woman is taken deep within her orgasmic bliss this sacred union occurs. Each time she continues to ejaculate Amrita, she becomes more purified and radiant. She and anyone touched by this high-level of orgasmic experience become bathed and surrounded in its glowing warmth. In this way, Amrita could be considered the true fountain of youth. It illuminates and blesses all those whom it touches. The more often a woman ejaculates, the higher her psychic/orgasmic states become. Also, her Amrita becomes sweeter and more purified with each consecutive ejaculation. I have noticed that after a woman has ejaculated several times, her ability to orgasm also becomes stronger and longer. It becomes deeper and in time, easier to access. She reaches heightened states of sensitivity both internally and throughout her body. She becomes aligned with her higher self through her orgasmic nature.

 

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Goddess Spot Massage Gspot by Dr. Clarke

    This ceremony is available for men, women or couples. It is a session that focuses on female sexual response, healing, and awakening of the woman's sexual center and entire system.  Sacred spot or G-spot massage for women can be a powerful way to help a woman clear abuse issues and open to greater levels of ecstatic pleasure. You can learn how to support a woman in freeing her sexual energy and reclaiming her ability to release Amrita.
    This is a very intimate ritual. The giver pays special attention to the woman's comfort and safety. Lots of eye contact and verbal communication are encouraged. There is often laughter, tears, joy, breakthroughs, ejaculations and deep pleasure.
    Men who participate in this ritual will be guided by specific techniques  to contact his inner Priest, and fully be present for his surrogate's pleasure, emotional release, orgasms, and whatever is present for her. This type of selfless giving is also a way to receive tremendous Shakti and enlightenment.    
    Discover the magic that lies within the body of the Goddess and the ecstasy which is in every woman.
    Women who seek more sensation in their yoni, want to clear issues of molestation, or learn to ejaculate can greatly benefit from this session. It is also a way to free emotional tension and stress from the body.
    and are available to guide men to mastery of this most intimate art.   Discover the path to the shore of her Sacred Waters. If your too far to get a session or just want to know what everyman should know about female sacred spot then I highly recommend The Muir's audio cassette on Freeing the Female Orgasm.

 

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Most Sacred Spot written by Jade

I'm fond of saying that an afternoon of sacred spot work is like two years of talk therapy. Sacred spot massage and manipulation is a healing modality that can be used to clear emotional blocks in women. With proper instruction, a woman may move quickly and powerfully through the issues that prevent her from exuberantly enjoying her sexual, sensual nature. There is also the potential for experiencing full-body orgasm. I've attempted to describe my own experience, and words are weak, but as close as I can get is that I became aware of a pulsating, outward expansion of all that exists, and for a few minutes I entered into this movement, this sensation, with every cell in my body and every aspect of my being. Full-body orgasm is a profound and spiritual occurrence that can be transformational and healing.

Sacred spot has also been called the "G" spot, so named after Dr. Ernest Grafenberg who wrote in 1950 an article about his discovery of this area of the female body. It has actually been known and written about since ancient times, and is well described in eastern texts. Grafenberg's article is quite hilarious from our current vantage point and can be read in its entirety at the website www.doctorg.com. 

The manipulation of a woman's sacred spot is a most intimate and privileged act. It should be approached with a sense of exploration and awe. Keep in mind that it may take several sessions before a couple can feel that they are beginning to understand the power of the work and experience results. Over time, though, and with the same partner, it is a precious gift for releasing blocks that keep a woman from enjoying sexual encounters. If she has experienced trauma in her sexual or relationship history and her sacred spot is intentionally stimulated for healing, she may remember inappropriate touching, undesired intercourse, or other sexual or emotional trauma. Unresolved issues around abortion, miscarriage, medical exams and childbirth may be present. Sacred spot is like a map of a woman's sexual history to date. The work may also trigger fantasies, past life images, birth trauma and repressed childhood sexual abuse memories. The work is also useful for simply reducing the tension and stress from our busy lives.

A session involving sacred spot work can be one of reflowering. This can remove negative imprints from her first sexual experience, so that more positive sexual memories can come forward in her life. The sexual system, located in the second chakra, is the most vulnerable to being shut down by our life traumas. This results in a diminishment of life force throughout the entire body and being. It is rare that a woman has not experienced some form of sexual mistreatment, intrusion or harassment. None of us get ideal information about our sexuality and our bodies. We all -- both men and women -- suffer from the demeaning and violent images of women that are prevalent in our culture. Sacred spot massage begins to remove these layers of distress.

Obviously, there is much to learn prior to attempting sacred spot manipulation. Among many good resources and educators, Charles and Caroline Muir are excellent teachers. Here are some general guidelines to work with.

LOCATION
For the facilitator to find the sacred spot, begin with the ring or middle finger. Think of how you might locate the mass of nerve endings behind the clitoris. Insert the finger straight into the vagina (yoni), towards the cervix. Then withdraw to the second knuckle and curl the finger back towards yourself in a "come here" gesture all the way forward to the front wall of the vagina, behind the pubic bone. Your finger should be about 1.5 - 2 inches inside at this point. You are seeking a spot that can be anywhere from the size of a dime to a silver dollar, depending on the size of the woman. The spot can expand with attention, and can stay larger over time with manipulation. Mine has grown from the size of a dime to about the size of a quarter. There can be a rougher or wrinkly-feeling texture to the spot. The correlating body part in the male anatomy is the scrotum. Firm upward pressure is necessary to begin experiencing emotional discharge, and there are several movements that aid expression and release, which are described later in this article.

When the spot is first touched, the woman may feel an urge to urinate. This sensation should pass quickly. Many women report having a pleasure point and a tender point on the spot, sometimes directly opposite each other. As you may have guessed, the tender point is the place to work to gain emotional release. Maintain an attitude of adventure and exploration and remember that you will get better with practice.

FOR THE FACILITATOR
Cleanliness, gentleness and patience are of primary importance. Fingernails should be closely trimmed and smooth.

You can't use too much of a good lubricant. Place towels to protect linens.

Perceive your woman as a goddess and a representative of the divine feminine force. Treat her with the respect and honor that she deserves.

Do not set orgasm as a goal for her.

Lead up to entry into her yoni with gently stroking and holding. Ask permission to enter her most intimate, interior space to begin the spot massage.

Be there for her, no matter what the experience is.

Remind her to breathe if she holds her breath. There is a Tantic practice called connecting breath that is very useful for this work.

Reassure and comfort her with your presence. State often to her, "I am right here for you," "It's OK to feel that." Let her hear that "It's OK." You can ask her what phrases she needs to hear before the session starts. 

Do not take anything that is said during a release process personally. Do not take on blame or get in "fixer" mode. Do your own deep breathing to overcome your fear of her strong emotions. Remember that the emotions that arise do not have to make sense. Allow them to simply be present.

Maintain eye contact often -- ask her for eye contact. Don't let her sink into herself. Many women hold the wounded belief that there is no one that can help, that she has to do it all by herself. 

FOR THE RECEIVER
State your intentions and goals for the session to your partner. You are a team and are working toward creating sexual wholeness in your relationship.

Receiving is a gift that you give your partner. He wants to assist you in this release process and help you clear anything that is in the way of your full sexual enjoyment.

You determine how much love, pleasure and enjoyment you can allow yourself. Open to the gifts of deep healing.

Heavy emotional energy may be present at times. Rage, deep sadness and intense fear can arise. Do your best to relax into any unpleasant feelings and allow them to be released. If you feel you have hit a wall and don't want to go any further, know that locating the block is part of the healing. You can return to the process in a future session.

Suppressed rage prevents us from experiencing passion. I believe that as we do our work individually, we are also healing the deep wounds that exist in our culture between men and women. Hold the intention of healing not just for yourself, but also for all people on the planet. This is extremely powerful and needed work.

Stay connected with your facilitator. Open your eyes and take in the loving gaze and presence.

Communicate your needs and feelings in a way that is not critical or blaming.

You can work with your issues in increments. You have developed these blocks over an entire lifetime. Be gentle and patient with yourself in moving through them.

MANIPULATION TECHNIQUES
After entering the yoni, hold steady upward pressure on sacred spot, without movement, as you become energetically connected. Stroke toward the entrance of the vagina with a "come here" movement, using firm upward pressure. The receiver should instruct the facilitator on the amount of pressure that she feels would bring release. It may seem beyond what is comfortable, but that is how release can begin.

Experiment with different strokes. Slowly try a "windshield washer" movement, using wrist motion to inscribe a crescent shape. Work with tapping motions on various points on and around sacred spot. You can also circle the spot, clockwise and counter-clockwise. Clear communication is of primary importance in finding the proper style of manipulation. The areas of discomfort can shift around from session to session.
When a tender area is discovered, go into it gently and explore. You don't have to create physical pain or discomfort, but go deeply enough for the receiver to feel and own the sore or numb spots. These spots are blessings in disguise and indicate the areas that will bring forward the most powerful healing experiences.

Map the pleasurable areas and make note of the painful and numb areas. You can even create pathways from a pleasurable area to a tender one after the discharge of emotions has occurred.

Both participants can work with the concept of moving the flow of energy that is generated in the first and second charkas up the body. When sexual energy or kundalini is moved upward, it awakens consciousness and brings healing and regeneration. It is a very powerful healing force and can also be used to attain a state of enlightenment, especially when full-body orgasm occurs.

The clitoris can be gently stimulated with the thumb while sacred spot work is being performed. This may bring orgasm or further emotional release.

Several hand positions or "mudras" are recommended for slowing discharge or reconnecting after deep emotional content has been cleared. The yoni may be gently cupped, with the fingers curled on the sacred spot, and the palm of the hand against the clitoral area. The rest of the palm conforms to the external mound of the yoni. This is a very comforting placement of the hand. The facilitator's other hand may be placed over the pubic bone in the lower abdomen, covering the area of the womb. Fingers are placed pointing down, with gentle downward pressure towards sacred spot. This helps anchor the energy and is useful if the emotions seem to be getting dangerously out of control or hysterical.

Actually, hysteria can be quite useful in releasing huge blocks of held energy very quickly. The facilitator must gage whether or not it is being productive and guide his lady in using connecting breath to keep the energy moving. He may use the mudras and verbal requests to calm down if he feels endangered in any way. It is hard, as a woman, to let go of concern about how this wild emotional release is affecting our lover, but keep in mind that he is responsible for his own responses to the experience, and notice that this can be a point of healing co-dependence or inappropriate concern for other's emotional states.

Emotional patterns that are very childlike may come up, as much of our woundedness occurs in childhood. The facilitator must remember that communication during the release of these patterns does not have to make sense or be "true." His job is to listen with love, not to interrupt, try to correct information or solve any problems. He can continually offer assurance in the form of loving eye contact and phrases like, "I'm right here for you now -- we can feel this together," and "I understand why you feel this way." Encouragement to continue is often appropriate because the biggest patterns are the hardest to move through. The receiver may want to stop as things intensify and this is the exact point where deep healing can occur. Confusion may arise about just what the feelings are. There can be so many, that they cannot all be identified. It is important that the receiver not go into her story about what took place, but rather to just experience the feelings, which she may not have been able to do as that small child. Whatever is happening, it is the facilitator's place to give assurance that it's all OK and encourage her to keep going.

The time after sacred spot work can be especially sweet. It's wonderful to lie in each other’s arms and talk about what happened. The woman may share content of what was occurring for her in her mind and body as the release took place. I personally experience a lightness of being that is hard to describe, but so precious. It can last for several days after sacred spot work. I also often have awareness and revelations arise in the days following the work that give me more insight into my continuing emotional and spiritual evolvement. 

In all the years that I have been on my own healing journey, I have studied and embraced many modalities to assist me along the way. Sacred spot work is by far the most profound and useful tool I've found. It is also an amazing bonding experience between lovers and assists our men in much deeper understanding of who we are and what we have been through, both individually, and collectively, as womankind. The presence of the Divine Holy Mother comes forward during this work. She sends support and grace to us and holds the vision of our complete and perfect healing. The individual healing of each of us as women promotes the healing of all women. It is a true blessing and a deep privilege each time sacred spot work is entered into by lovers.

Jade Author
March, 2001

 

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Male Sacred Spot Massage & Prostate Therapy

     Men have a lot of pressure to perform, provide, and accomplish. Here is a session totally without goals.
     In this session the man is totally receptive. This ceremony can be an hour and a half, or two hours long. The session starts with the Bath & Massage Ceremony, consisting of a hot sensual mineral bath to tune you inward and focus the mind while engaging the pleasure receptors in the body and deepening your awareness. 
    Once the body is relaxed, pampered, massaged and the spirit is nurtured and awakened, the focus is on the first and second chakras. The area of the male g-spot, and the prostate gland are known Tantricly, to be the energetic access point for the Kundalini energy which leads to enlightenment. A gentle digital technique is used for contacting these subtle places with increased receptivity. Expert stimulation, eye contact, and conscious focus are used to heal trauma or clear any old or negative imprinting.
    Issues of sexual abuse, abandonment and even rejection, can be accessed through the sexual center. Issues dealing with securities, finances, and commitment reside in the muladhara or root chakra, located at the base of the spine. Loving energy and focused intention help to bring these centers into harmony, heal any wounds from the opposite sex, and increase your capacity to feel pleasurable sensation.
     Every person's experience with this session is different. Some people experience full body orgasm, others have a deep emotional release (tears, laughter, screams) followed by immense pleasure. Most people have powerful dreams for some nights after; the important thing is that you will be given a safe environment to feel and express whatever needs to come up, and a devoted healer to guide and support you. It's a loving, spiritual experience that will be transformative and unforgettable.

 

Lingam; the Vajra: The lingam is sometimes referred to as a Vajra, or 'the powerful thunderbolt'. 
An energetic lighting rod that can activate energy directly or indirectly into all her chakras. Her third eye, throat chakra, and lower chakras can all be healed and empowered by the lingam's staff of magic. Having the power and knowledge to ignite, mystify and manifest transcendental, loving pleasure is to be blessed as a God.

It is a truly an  honor to be gifted with one, and a rewarding quest to perfect your abilities as master socerer with this  God given wand of healing light and blissful jot. 


The text has advanced information for oral lovemaking, prolonging arousal and orgasmic response, male sexual healing, ejaculatory control, increasing intimacy with your partner, self practices, and making powerful Tantric energy connections.

 

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Goddesses UnveiledMudras: The most common Mudras can be found in Hindu dance or prayer. Many people are familiar with some of these gestures from Indian artwork, statues, paintings of the Goddesses. In these works of art, Gods and Goddesses are often seen holding their hands or arms in particular positions. These are mudras or "sacred hand gestures."

Mudras are used to conduct energy through the body in ways it may not flow on it's own. Mudras are also used as non-verbal language of understanding between lovers. This mudra is used to move shakti upwards, integrating and raising it up to the higher chakras. 

This mudra also shows the sacred triangle of the yoni. There are many triangles of power in the human body. From the nipples to the belly button, the tip of the tongue to the nipples, and the legs themselves are triangles with the clitoris as the topmost point.

Shakti

Shakti is energy.
Shakti is power.
Shakti is consciousness in action.
Shakti is the feminine principle which is at the core of every living thing.

     If a man learns to tune into Shakti. He will always be receptive to what a a woman wants. He may be surprised how intuitively he knows how to support his Goddess's needs and desires. He can learn to transmit his Shakti through his eyes, hands, lips, breath, lingam and skin. If he masters this he can make a woman ejaculate from across the room just by looking at her. If pleasuring a woman on a deeper level is something you want to explore, the Goddess Worship ritual is a way of gaining personal power through complete surrender and adoring the beauty of the Goddess in woman.
     Shiva and Shakti are actual Hindu deities. Shakti is the personification of the Divine Mother, while Shiva is the Supreme Godhead, Lord of ultimate reality. However, the name Shakti can refer to any woman and the name Shiva to any man. They are the highest masculine and highest feminine within us. When our inner Shiva & Shakti are in balance, harmony exists within us, the universe becomes our lover, and we cease to feel loneliness or longing. Instead, only complete oneness exits!

 

nude.9.jpg (11643 bytes) Yoni: Yoni is a Tantric term in Sanskrit it means "Sacred Temple."  The yoni is quite literally viewed as a temple in which the worship of the divine takes place.

The yoni is the gateway to the divine. It is a doorway by which we may join with our sexual partner to experience oneness with the Goddess.

 

 

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Goddess Worship
Written By
GoDiva

     Goddess Worship is not a "scene" in a Dominate /Submissive sense. It is a yoga - a science and system that teaches you to explore and discover your sexuality as your connection to the creative life forces within you. The practice of this system is a personal creation, designed to suit your interests and taste. We co-create together, based on what's present, moment to moment. I assist you in understanding your connection to life and how to deepen that connection through personal practices and union with the embodiment of Goddess, in women. From a tantric perspective, every man and women holds a spark of divine essence within them. Therefore, by acknowledging the divinity in one another, we evoke that presence. Man and women are equal opposites to one another. We may willingly take turns serving one another, but neither is less than the other. Serving the God/Goddess in a tantric way stimulates the innate love and devotion to the Divine. The essence of this expression is available to anyone who you truly are able to perceive divine essence with. Thus the greeting, Namaste which means the divine being within me greets and recognizes the divine being within you. In Tantra, a man learns to raise his consciousness along with his frequency by not ejaculating regularly. It is most empowering when this is practiced willfully and with conscious choice. The tantric evolved man understands that the longer he holds his seed within him, the more power and energy he gathers. When serving Goddess from a place of high personal power, he joins with her at high frequencies, becoming an equal counterpart to the Goddess he serves. A tantric union is a very real connection based on the true expression of souls. Each person gives offerings to one another. Since you are new to this, I will guide you through the stages of calling forth and honoring the Goddess, until you feel it naturally flow as an out pour of your own true expressions. I will teach you how to awaken the Goddess and ride along with her in the abundant range of pleasurable sensations in the multi-orgasmic, ecstatic realms. Much of this is possible through manual and energetic stimulation. As you meet in high realms with me -- I may grant you the blessings of more intimate connections. It is a journey that unfolds infinitely- mysteriously and more beautifully than either of us could ever imagine...

Goddess Worship Rituals
Written By Goddess Moon

Offerings like these gained devotees passage to the wisdom, and desires of the Goddess.
     Learn to  Tune into the subtle messages of her body and find out precisely how to dedicate yourself to her pleasure.

  • Learn to give a sensual massage
  • Do nude chores
  • Participate in Ritual Body Worship
  • Worship her Lotus feet
  • Be mesmerized through erotic hypnosis
  • Learn ejaculatory control
  • Experience a Golden Blessing
  • Transmit sex energy through your eyes, lips, breath, and touch into the body of the Goddess

     Anointing, toning and offerings like these gained devotees passage to the wisdom, and desires of the Goddess.  Learn to  Tune into the subtle messages of her body and find out precisely how to dedicate yourself to her pleasure.

 

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Aromatherapy

What is aromatherapy?

Aromatherapy is the therapeutic use of aroma-producing oils (essential oils) extracted from plants. Essential oils are extracted from a plant's flowers, leaves, stalks, bark, rind, or roots. The oils are mixed with another substance (such as oil, alcohol, or lotion) and then applied to the skin, sprayed in the air, or inhaled. The oils can also be massaged into the skin or poured into bath water. Aromatherapy originated in and has been practiced in France and Europe since the 1920s.

The philosophy behind aromatherapy is that specific plant oils produce fragrances that either stimulate or relax the body. Practitioners of aromatherapy believe that the fragrances in the oils stimulate odor-sensing nerves in the nose. Impulses are then sent to the part of the brain that controls memory and emotion. Depending on the type of oil, the result on the body may be calming or stimulating. The oils are thought to interact with the body's hormones and enzymes to cause changes in blood pressure, pulse, and other body functions. The fragrance of the oil plays a role in the specific treatment. Another theory suggests that the odors of certain oils may stimulate the body's glands to produce pain-fighting substances.

What is aromatherapy used for?

Practitioners of aromatherapy have used essential oils to treat a wide range of physical and mental conditions, including burns, infections, depression, insomnia, and high blood pressure. However, so far there is little scientific evidence to support claims that aromatherapy effectively prevents or cures illness.

Supporters of aromatherapy believe the oils may promote relaxation and help relieve stress. There is currently little scientific evidence that shows aromatherapy is effective in preventing or treating illness.

Is aromatherapy safe?

Practitioners of aromatherapy are not licensed in the United States. A wide range of health professionals (such as massage therapists, nurses, and counselors) may have experience and training in aromatherapy. It is important to talk with your conventional health professional to see whether aromatherapy may be helpful and safe for your specific health condition.

The oils used in aromatherapy are not meant to be swallowed. Many of the oils are potent and can be dangerous if taken internally.

People with certain chronic illnesses or conditions should not use aromatherapy without first consulting a health professional. These illnesses and conditions include:

  • Asthma, respiratory allergies, or chronic lung disease. Volatile oils may cause airway spasms.
  • Skin allergies. Some oils may cause skin irritation, especially in the membranes of the eyes, nose, and mouth.
  • Pregnant women should not use aromatherapy. Some oils (such as juniper, rosemary, and sage) may cause uterine contractions.
  • Aromatherapy should be avoided in children under the age of 5, since they can be very sensitive to the oil.
  • Oils should not be used near the face, eyes, or mouth, since irritation of the skin and membranes may occur.

For more information

Your local library, health store, or bookstore may have information on aromatherapy.

The National Center for Complementary and Alternative Medicine (NCCAM), within the National Institutes of Health, is a government agency that provides information about and sponsors research in complementary therapies. You may call toll-free at 1-888-644-6226, or visit its Web site at http://nccam.nih.gov, for more information.

For more information on alternative therapies, see the topic Complementary Medicine.

Why are Essential Oils Essential?

100% PURE ORGANIC essential oils Are:

Immune Stimulating
Anti-Microbial
Anti-Viral
Antiseptic
Anti-infectious
Anti-tumoral
Anti-bacterial
Anti-fungal
Anti-oxidant (documented lab studies reveal essential oils are 60 times more powerful then pycnogenol)

      What Are Essential Oils?

Essential oil are the subtle, aromatic and volatile liquids extracted from the flowers, seeds, leaves, stems, bark and roots of herbs, bushes, shrubs, and tress, through distillation.


According to ancient Egyptian hieroglyphics and Chinese manuscripts, priests and physicians were using essential oils thousands of years before Christ to heal the sick.  They are the oldest form of remedies and cosmetics known to man and were considered more valuable than gold.  There are 188 references to oils in the Bible.  Science is only now beginning to investigate the incredible healing properties of essential oils.

      The Properties of Essential Oils

Pure Essential Oils Have Very High Frequency. The effectiveness of Essential Oils cannot be fully understood
without some discussion of frequency.  Frequency is the measurable rate of electrical energy flow that is constant between any two points.  Everything has frequency.  In his book The Body Electric, Dr. Robert O. Becker establishes that the human body has an electrical frequency and that much about a person's health can be determined by the person's frequency.

In 1992, Bruce Tainio of Tainio Technology, an independent division of Eastern State University in Cheney, Washington, built the first frequency monitor in the world.   Tainio determined  that the average frequency of the human body during the daytime is 62 to 68 MHz. (A healthy body frequency is (62 - 72 MHz.) When the frequency drops, the immune system is compromised.

If the frequency drops to 58 MHz, cold and flu symptoms appear.  At 55 MHz, diseases like Candida take hold; at 52 MHz, Epstein-Barr and at 42 MHz, Cancer.

According to Dr. Royal R. Rife, every disease has a frequency.  He found that certain frequencies can prevent the development of disease and that others would destroy disease.    Substances with higher frequency will destroy diseases of lower frequency. The study of frequencies raises an important question about the
frequencies of the substances we eat, breathe, and absorb.


Many pollutants lower healthy frequency.  Processed/canned food has a frequency of ZERO!!    The frequency of fresh produce is only 15 MHz, dry herbs from 12 to 22 MHz and fresh herbs from 20 to 27 MHz.  Essential Oils start at 52 MHz and go as high as 320 MHz, which is the frequency of rose oil.
Clinical research shows that Essential Oils have the highest frequency of any natural substance known to man, creating an environment in which disease, bacteria, virus, fungus, etc., cannot live.

Essential Oils Penetrate.
The penetrating characteristic of Essential Oils greatly enhances their ability to be effective.  Essential Oils will penetrate into the body when applied to the skin.  Essential Oils placed on the foot will be distributed to every cell in the body in 21 minutes.
They will even penetrate a finger or toe nail to treat fungus underneath.

Essential Oils Are Aromatic.
Essential Oils are highly aromatic and therefore, many of the benefits can be obtained by simply inhaling them.  This can be done by breathing in the fragrance from the bottle, or they can be diffused into the room.
When diffused, Essential Oils can be the best air filtration system in the world.  They will; (1) Purify, by removing metallic particles and toxins from the air.  (2) Increase atmospheric oxygen. (3) Increase ozone and negative ions in the house, which inhibits bacteria growth.  (4) Destroy odors from mold, cigarettes, and animals.  (5) Fill the air with a fresh, herbal aromatic scent.


 

urine therapy

    urine therapy

     

    Drink water from your own cistern, flowing water from your own well. (The Book of Proverbs 5:15)

    More than three million Chinese drink their own urine in the belief it is good for their health, according to the official Xinhua news agency.

Urine therapy refers to one of several uses of urine to prevent or cure sickness, to enhance beauty or to cleanse one's bowels. Most devotees drink the midstream of their morning urine. Some prefer it straight and steaming hot; others mix it with juice or serve it over fruit. Some prefer a couple of urine drops mixed with a tablespoon of water applied sublingually several times a day. Some wash themselves in their own golden fluid to improve their skin quality. Many modern Japanese women are said to engage in urine bathing. The truly daring use their own urine as an enema. Urine is not quite the breakfast of champions, but it is the elixir of choice of a number of holy men in India where drinking urine has been practiced for thousands of years. The drink is also the preferred pick-me-up for a growing number of naturopaths and other advocates of  "nature cures."  The main attractions of this ultimate home brew are its cost, availability and portability. It is much cheaper than that other "water of life," whisky (uisge beatha), which also has been hailed for its medicinal qualities. Unlike whisky, however, urine is always available, everyone carries a supply at all times, and, for most people, there are no intoxicating side effects. Furthermore, the urge to overindulge is almost absent when drinking urine.  The same can't be said for good single malt such as Highland Park or a good whiskey such as Black Bush.

Many advocates claim that urine is a panacea. There is practically nothing it won't cure. Urine is said to be effective against the flu, the common cold, broken bones, toothache, dry skin, psoriasis and all other skin problems. It is said to deter aging and is helpful with AIDS, allergies,  animal  and snake bites,  asthma, heart disease, hypertension, burns, cancer, chemical intoxication, chicken pox, enteritis, constipation,  and pneumonia. Urine is said to be effective against dysentery, edema, eczema, eye irritation, fatigue, fever, gonorrhea, gout, bloody urine, small pox, immunological disorders, infections, infertility, baldness,  insomnia, jaundice, hepatitis, Kaposi's sarcoma, leprosy, lymphatic disorder,  urticaria, morning sickness, hangover, obesity, papilloma virus,  parasitoses, gastric ulcer,  rheumatism,  birth marks, stroke, congestion, lumbago, typhus, gastritis, depression, cold sore, tuberculosis,  tetanus, Parkinson's disease, foot fungus, diabetes and other endocrine related diseases. Some enthusiasts see urine therapy as a divine manifestation of cosmic intelligence. They use urine to unleash their kundalini, sending it straight into the third eye, bringing instant enlightenment.*

 

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